Even in a crowd, you can feel profoundly lonely. And this is why the world is filled with so many people who seemingly have it all, right? They, you know, are famous, or they're wealthy, or they're powerful. But what really matters is the quality of connections that we have. That whenever we have interactions with people where we feel like we can't be ourselves, that actually separates us further and further from other people.
And service, it turns out, is one of the greatest antidotes to the loneliness that we have. We reaffirm to ourselves that we have value to bring to the world, and it doesn't have to be going to a soup kitchen. Simply by being fully present and listening to someone, we can give them something extraordinarily powerful.
So the journey, Selena, to become more connected to ourselves, to connect more deeply with other people, is not a journey to somehow transform ourselves into something we're not. It's really a journey to return to who we intrinsically are, being centered at our best and experiencing our greatest meaning and fulfillment when we're giving and receiving that love.
"Do you believe everyone has a calling? If so, do you think I've found mine?"
"Yes, I believe everybody has a calling. I think that you know what yours is, but you don't always choose to walk in it."
"What do you mean?"
"I think that you know the things that fuel you and give you purpose in life. And the things that make you happy. But I don't think you always choose that."
"Yeah, that's probably self-sabotage."
"Yeah, that's exactly what it is. I think stuff being normal or not having chaos is actually uncomfortable ... 'cuz if you think about it, your life for so long, from such a young age, has always been chaos. So it makes sense. It's, like, more comfortable."